1. Denial
2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance The first step of the grieving process, denial. You find the news of the death too overwhelming to take on and you don't believe it. You start to talk yourself out of it, tell yourself it's a dream and say this could never happen to you. Denial is usually shown shorty after the news is received, it doesn't take long for it to kick in. Next comes along anger, you realize that this really is happening. You are mad that it is happening to you. Why you? You don't deserve this. It is often found that during this step your anger is taken out around those around you, your family members and your friends. You're thinking to yourself what you did wrong to deserve this. You are hands down mad with the world. Third, you start to feel guilty and the bargaining begins. This is a major one with suicide, what if I would have noticed the signs? What if I would have gotten them help sooner? What if I was there for them when then needed someone to talk to? All of the "what if" questions start flowing through. After you have bargained with yourself and realized that there is nothing you
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This picture is very powerful to me. It really makes you think about a side of suicide that you don't normally think about. Most suicidal victims don't realize that suicide is a permanent decision, that doesn't just effect them. Suicidal being a selfish act is something that is brought up frequently when talking about suicide. Is the victim selfish or are the people that caused the victim to feel suicidal selfish? The answer is all a matter of opinion, but for me it is neither. I don't think one person should be blamed for another person's actions. When someone is suicidal they are the one that decided that was what they were going to do, yes I believe that other people's actions towards that individual may have encouraged them to do it more, but I don't ever think it is anyone's fault but their own. They could have gotten help, talked to someone about it or found some way
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"Well honey here comes a lullaby
Your very own lullaby Please let me take you Out of the darkness and into the light 'Cause I have faith in you That you're gonna make it through another night Stop thinkin' about the easy way out There's no need to go and blow the candle out Because you're not done, you're far too young And the best is yet to come" |
"Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life" For me the chorus was the strongest part of this song. I did some research on the meaning of this song because it was a little hard for me to understand what the singer was trying to get across. It turns out that the singer in The Fray used to work with troubled teens, which is what inspired them to write this song. The song is explaining how you can sit and listen to someone's problems to help support them. They also really put a focus on supporting those that are in need and helping them get the necessary help that they need to get better. In the chorus it tries to explain that it is worth the time and effort to help someone in need because |
"It must have been a place so dark you couldn't feel the light,
Reaching for you through that stormy cloud. Now here we are gathered in our little home town. This can't be the way you meant to draw a crowd." There were a lot of really good ideas that I got from listening to this song but I really liked how they made it a big point that the friend didn't see it coming or know why it happened. I really also liked how they showed the friend wondering what he could have done different to prevent it happening. I think this is |
There is a really special feeling about this song because Billy Joel once tried attempting suicide. He knows first hand what it is like. He isn't like most people that just say I understand what you are going through, he truly knows. This makes the song so much more real and easier to relate to. He wrote the song focused on the teenage audience to remind them that it is ok to make mistakes. He said that he really wants teenagers to understand that even through bad decisions and heartbreak you can also push through. He knows what needs to be said because he's been there and I think that is what makes the song a lot easier for those going through the same thing to relate to. To me it was very brave of him to write a song about his decisions but I'm sure it has helped a lot more people than he will ever
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